Ellis and Cheryl Levinson, authors of Enough of Us: Why We Should Think Twice Before Making Children, suggest, before taking the plunge, prospective parents should ask themselves a few questions posed by University of Pennsylvania Medical School psychologist Edward Monte:
• Am I emotionally prepared to have a child?
• Am I ready as an adult? Have I resolved most of my childhood conflicts? Am I truly finished with being a child myself? Am I compensating for something that was missing from my childhood?
• Am I parental material? Do I have my own independent thoughts and feelings? Can I love a child and still set boundaries?
• Are we ready as a couple? Do we have enough qualities and traits in common to parent successfully? How well do we resolve our differences? How do we go about integrating our values and our world views? Are we able to compromise when we disagree?
• What is my image of my future family?