NEW YORK: It’s not me, it’s you: Sometimes a business owner has to break up with a client.

When Gil Gildner’s big client started paying more slowly and stopped communicating well, cash flow was at stake.

“The payments became a week late, two weeks, a month late and then the final month it never came,” said Gildner, co-founder of Discosloth, a marketing company in Little Rock, Ark. “We decided, you’re not even invested in this project. We have to cut this off.”

Letting go of customers is something most small business owners do at some point. Sometimes the survival of the business is at stake, or a client cannot be satisfied and becomes an emotional drain.

Gildner found a silver lining: “Within the first month, we found that jettisoning the client gave us enough bandwidth to pick up new clients.”

Steve Cooper, co-founder of Excella, an information technology firm in Arlington, Va., recalls a project in which he couldn’t speak with top executives, only with lower-level managers. Cooper’s staffers did the work only to be repeatedly told to redo it.

“Eventually, we recognized that our employees’ satisfaction and well-being were more important to us in the long term than investing in this futile relationship,” Cooper said.

It can be especially hard to drop a big corporation. But Nancy Cramer, a leadership consultant in Dallas, found that big companies dictated payment terms and she felt she wasn’t treated with respect. After working with one client for 15 months, Cramer gave up, saying, “Some customers are not worth having.”

Lawyers may not be able to end client relationships if they’re in the midst of litigation. But when the relationship is about routine business matters, there’s more leeway. Bob Horst, an attorney with Timoney Knox in Fort Washington, Pa., has stopped working with business clients when they “want to achieve something that’s unreasonable or highly impractical.” Or when they fall behind in payments.

“No one likes to see a promising relationship end, but it’s a hard reality,” Horst said.

The breakup should be handled diplomatically, owners say.

“I typically make an excuse, such as, we aren’t able to handle that project at this time, or we raise our prices,” said Veronica Kirin, who owned a Grand Rapids, Mich., website design company until earlier this year. “You don’t want to burn a bridge and you don’t want to hurt your company’s name.”

Usually the problem was an impossible-to-please customer, but Kirin also stopped working with clients who made inappropriate comments about a new female staffer.

“I’m protective of my team, and don’t want to work with someone whose first reaction is about the looks of one of my employees,” said Kirin.

Complaints from a customer don’t have to mean ending a relationship. They can be valuable feedback, says Paige NeJame, who has a CertaPro painting franchise.

“A picky customer often points out our weaknesses to us in a way from which we can grow and get better. There is a big difference between picky and intolerable,” said NeJame, whose company serves the Boston area.

But NeJame recalls one customer who complained after his house was pressure-washed to prepare for a painting, and a ladder flattened a small part of his lawn — unavoidable and not permanently damaging. NeJame told the homeowner, “We don’t think we can make you happy. You don’t have to pay, and we’ll find you another contractor.”

Owners also worry about negative reviews online. Greg Shepard, who owns a cleaning service, begins by saying, “I really want to keep you as a customer,” and outlines what he and the person need to do to keep working together. But he isn’t sorry when an unhappy customer moves on.

Shepard recalls a staffer was in a car accident en route to a job, and her replacement couldn’t arrive until three hours later. The angry homeowner demanded that Shepard promise it would never happen again.

“We’re going to make every effort, but if something out of our control happens, we can’t do that,” he told the customer. She decided to find another cleaning service.

It’s hard for Jonathan Marsh, who owns a Home Helpers senior care franchise in Bradenton, Fla., to break up with customers. But he has stopped working with clients who didn’t pay or were abusive to his employees.

“The job satisfaction of my staff is very important. Without great caregivers, who are hard to come by, it is difficult to provide only the best care for our clients,” he said.